If you are not sure about moving to the UK and all your friends and family say something different, it might be time to get some life-coaching to help you work out what's best for YOU!

Making the Decision

Are you really sure you want to move to the UK? Can you cope with living away from your friends, your family and everything you’ve known all your life?

We’re not trying to scare you away! But moving away from your own country is a big step – one you should think carefully about.

So if you are considering moving to the UK for a long time, or if the move will mean a big change of direction in life, it may be a good idea for you to see a ‘life-coach’ before you make your final decision. Have a look at the "Find a..." tab for a selection of coaches.

 

Life Coaching

This is a growing trend in the UK and is a $100 million business in the USA - so don’t just dismiss the idea as the latest fashion!

From the point of view of a life-coach, the only parts of our lives that are planned for us are that we are born, and will eventually die. Everything that happens in between is up to you to decide.

So you can employ a coach to help you work out a) what you really want in the future, and b) whether or not you are making the right decisions to get there. They are not there to make decisions for you, but to help you understand yourself and how you can achieve your personal aims.

You might think that you can get this sort of advice from your friends and family. But what you have to ask yourself is "are they qualified to give me advice?" Unless you have friends who have achieved everything they want in their lives, then they are hardly in a position to tell you how to live yours!

Professional Advice

There are lots of other reasons why an independent life-coach may offer better advice than friends and family:

-    They have been trained in the right skills such as listening and questioning techniques, and motivation. So they are in a better position to help you work out what you want out of life and how to get it.

-    You are paying them for their unbiased opinion. Your friends may be acting out of self-interest (they may not want you to leave!), or just get bored of listening to you.

-    Friends and family are more likely to tell you what they think you want to hear instead of what you really need to do. Or they may tell you what they want you to do – parents don’t often like to see their children leave home, let alone the country!

-    If you are thinking about leaving your friends behind, it probably means you don’t want to be like your friends (however much you like them). They have accepted where they are in their lives. If you stay around people who have different goals, you could hold yourself back from making a big change in your life.

For any of these reasons, asking the people we care about for advice can often be the worst option available to us, however normal it seems to do it.

How much does it cost?

Your first consultation will often be free of charge and then you will usually have to pay by the hour after that. In the UK, coaches are quite expensive at between £60 and £100 for an hourly session.

You might be thinking, “Is this an unnecessary expense?” Well of course, the answer could be “yes”. But spending a couple of hundred pounds before you make one of the biggest moves of your life could also be well worth it.

Even if it just helps you decide you are doing the right thing, it will fill you with much more confidence now that you know you are on the right path. Or if it makes you realise that coming to the UK is the wrong thing for you, it will be worth every penny!

If you want to get more information, or want to find your nearest life-coach, you should contact the International Coach Federation (ICF) – the official global association for life-coaches. Using their resource will help ensure that you get help from a properly trained, registered coach rather than someone who just wants to take your money! Have a look at the "Find a..." tab for a selection of coaches.

By Matt Taylor

 

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USEFUL WORDS 

 

successes = doing well at something or achieving your plans

achievements = success in doing or having what you have planned

goals / objectives = something that you hope or plan to achieve

develop strategies = creating a plan or method for achieving something

action plans = a series of actions that you think about carefully to help to achieve something

insights = chances to understand something and learn more about it

milestones = events or achievements that mark an important stage in your life

approaches to change = the way in which you think about changes in your life

limitations = disadvantages or weak points that may make you less effective

USEFUL PHRASES

 

Giving Encouragement

Go for it!
You can do it!
You should give it a go.
Why don’t you try and see how it goes?
It’s worth a shot.
Come on, it’ll be an adventure!

GRAMMAR SPOT

 

Advice Idioms

A: I’m going to spend a year working in England.

B: Fantastic! Make the most of it, you don’t get many chances like that!

A: I’ve never driven in Britain before. Is it hard driving on the left?

B: Not really, but you need to keep your wits about you – especially at roundabouts!

A: I’d really like to change my career, but I’m not completely sure about it yet.

B: There’s only one way to find out – you’ve got to take the bull by the horns and give it a go!

A: I’m never going to earn the kind of salary I want if I stay in this job.

B: I’ve heard that they’re thinking of sending you to England, so I’d sit tight if I were you. Just bide your time and eventually you’ll get a good opportunity.

A: I’ve got so much to do before I travel to England I don’t know what to do first!

B: Why don’t you make a list to help you and then just take one day at a time?